When a child is lost, even a tiny one, dispassionately called an embryo, fetus or tissue collection, misunderstanding occurs. Mothers are unable to comprehend the behavior of doctors who argue that nothing happened and that they need to think about the future. Specialists in white smocks often raise their eyebrows in amazement when they hear about mourning and the need for burial. Friends and family, who congratulated a few days earlier, now do not know what to say. The "almost forget about this miscarriage" falls from the mouth almost automatically in the place of the more human "I feel for you". From underestimation in good faith, sometimes one goes into silent condolences.
The woman remains emotionally alone. Although there are many people around her, she feels incomprehensible, rejected, despite many offers of help, she does not want and is unable to use them. It is often inappropriate to support a partner who experiences the whole situation equally strongly but who will never fully understand how a woman who loses a child feels.
Bitterness of memories
"It was so beautiful, we finally succeeded. In addition to joy, I felt the characteristic butterflies in my stomach. Like a sign from this little man who decided to live in my tummy. I received congratulations, handshakes, whispers to provide support. I felt really alive now. Everything happened quickly. Sudden lower abdominal pain, bleeding, hospital, then dispassionate diagnosisfor: miscarriage. "
"Now we have Kasia. Still, we're still thinking about that child. Motherhood has a bittersweet taste. "
Miscarriage is the spontaneous loss of pregnancy before 23 weeks of pregnancy. However, the vast majority of miscarriages occur between 10 and 12 weeks of pregnancy. In the second trimester, miscarriage occurs one in fifty pregnancies.
Symptoms of miscarriage
A few days before miscarriage most often observed nagging nausea, breast pain. Then there is slight bleeding and pain in the lower abdomen. Women often have a feeling that something is wrong. Listen to your intuition and see a doctor.
Causes of miscarriage
Many women ask themselves why. There are no easy answers. However, there are causes that are most often recognized. And in this case, the most common are: