When children begin early childhood education, their desire to learn is undeniable. Each praise of 'his master', drives them to want to go to school and try harder. However, as they grow and the demands increase, not everyone still wants to learn and is interested in studying.
Surely you have heard 'my son does not want to study, he always makes excuses', 'he does not make an effort, he does not feel like it' and the same conclusion is always reached 'he is lazy'. However, beyond what you may think, the causes of a child not wanting to study can be varied.
1. Emotional problems: In this case, it can be from being sad or afraid because they are living a situation of bullying or having conflicts that they cannot solve with a certain teacher or their friends makes it a probable cause that the last thing they think about is in focus on your studies.
2. Low self-esteem: Not all the subjects we like so much nor do we obtain the same results with the same effort. In those moments, frustration and our limitations appear and with it the insecurities of your child. Who wants to do subjects that remind him that he is not good?
3. Lack of autonomy and organization: Studying is the area that is going to be most affected if you are an overprotective parent and your child is used to doing things with you and you telling him how and when to start studying. Since studying is an activity that requires great planning, effort and independence. Therefore, if he is used to you doing these functions, when he grows up he will not want to study if it is not with you.
4. Learning difficulties: Some students may have more trouble learning or retaining certain information quickly than their peers and keeping up with the class. They can occur, for example, because you do not have adequate attention for long periods of time and in that case, the more information you have to retain, the more it will cost you to concentrate or you may have problems understanding the information ... There are many difficulties and the only way in which you will be able to solve your doubts, it will be that you go to a specialist where you can evaluate it.
Although it is your child who must take the step of studying, you as a parent can achieve certain behaviors that will be essential to help him in this difficult task:
1. Find out the specific reason why you do not want to study talking to him and listening to him without getting angry or judging him. This is not the time to try to convince you of anything.
2. Be more flexible. Sometimes, it's not that they don't want to study but that they feel that the goals you set for them are too high. You are the one who wants him to get those grades or to spend more time on a subject, perhaps he is more conformist or feels that he has other needs or interests that motivate him more and make him happy.
3. Give him short deadlines, It is useless to talk about summer plans or even a term. They live day by day, so it is best to accompany them in this process and to be aware of daily objectives, otherwise they will get frustrated before even trying.
4. Believe in your possibilities. If you value his abilities, he will end up believing in his too. You have to show them that you value every effort they get and acknowledge it with displays of affection, so forget the reproaches because they will not get them to study more.
Remember to have expectations appropriate to your child's abilities. Many times, we focus on the dreams that we have had with them, on the potential that we have always seen. However, it is important not to demand more of them than they are willing to give.
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