Surely you know that person who constantly complains about everything: his children misbehave, his friends do not listen to him, his bosses do not consider him, his doctor ignores him, the bus is late, it is cold, it is hot ... .
It's exhausting listening to those people complaining all day about everything. Even when there is nothing to complain about, they always find a reason to do so. We tend to run away from them, and it has a scientific explanation: Exposure to negative people impairs brain function, dulling and "groggy." This also involves children, so if you are complaining about everything in front of them, read this and then reflect.
Trevor Blake explains in "Three simple steps: a map to success in business and life", that neuroscientists have learned to measure activity in the brain when it is faced with certain stimuli, including constant complaints.
Blake explains that the brain works like a muscle so if children are surrounded by negative and toxic people, who constantly complain, they will tend to repeat this behavior.
Furthermore, the author's research shows that when someone, whether an adult or a child, is too exposed to complaints you can be "stunned."
Just 30 minutes with someone negative or even watching a television program with this type of content, it causes the brain to lose the ability it needs to solve a problem.
In our day to day we will find a thousand reasons to complain, however, these complaints thrown into the air are useless, so why do they do it?
- Dissatisfaction: behind the complaints because it rains or because it is hot, there is a deep complaint about their lives, they are people who do not find the good side of things.
- Lack of empathy: they are people who feel that they are the center of the universe, who need and deserve more things than others and are not capable of putting themselves in the place of the other.
- HabitVery complaining children are usually the children of parents who complain about everything. They assume that lamenting is part of the day to day, is one more mania.
To prevent these complaints from damaging the brains of children, "dumbfounded" and even turn them into complaining children, we must teach them to defend themselves and stay away from such people, how? Trevor Blake gives us some clues:
- Take distance: it is the most practical measure, they just have to turn around and look for a more suitable company.
- Ask the complainant to fix their problem: We can tell our children to ask the complainer this question, "And you, what are you going to do about it?
- Protective shield: Let's make the child think that when he is with someone like that, imagine that he puts on Harry Potter's invisibility cloak, in such a way that he isolates himself from what is happening around him and nothing he hears can affect him.
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