Anger in a child is one of those emotions that we, as parents, don't like.
Because we have a problem with her. We face her and often lose. Despite the passage of years, we have trouble controlling the expression of negative emotions. We are afraid of the situation when it prevails over us, overshadowing the mind and hindering logical thinking. We know that withanger is a bad advisor, which is why we also face concerns about the future of an angry child. We attribute natural tantrums in young children weigh more than they should have.
Episodes frighten us when a child under the influence of overcoming anger he loses control of his body. He goes crazy, hits his hands, kicks, screams and turns red on his face. Everything is done so that after a dozen or so minutes a sudden surge of emotions passes just as quickly and leaves no shadow of an earlier explosion.
The child appears to be after a tantrum confused, slightly embarrassed, tired - he does not understand what happened and wants to quickly forget about it. Worse with a parent who often tries to deal with what he witnessed for a long time ... His thoughts are worried - is it normal or really a child can't behave differently, why I have such a big problem with it and finally - how to deal with anger in a child?
Anger is a reaction to a threat
Anger, like fear, is reaction to the threat. It is the body's response to danger that motivates to act, unlike fear, which suggests escape. Anger causes an influx of adrenaline and causes aggression in some situations.
The important information is that it is impossible to suppress anger 100%. Attempts to control this feeling and erase it at the outset are doomed to failure. For if you may not show this feeling externally, then the unspeakable anger will quickly turn against you - literally. In children, hidden anger often manifests itself in nerve tics nail biting, soaking, nightmares, depression.
Why are the children angry?
Small children can't yet in a controlled, socially acceptable way to express anger. Often, before they think, the reaction already appears and is usually violent.
Anger is often a consequence of unmet basic needs - hunger, fatigue, boredom. This feeling also occurs when the child feels threatened, survived failure, shame and humiliation, has a sense of injustice, struggles with hurt feelings.
The older the child, the longer the list of reasons for feeling angry ...
How can you help your child if he gets angry?
Be ready for a burst of anger at the least appropriate moment
A child usually gets angry at the worst possible moment - when you are in a hurry, when you are in a public place where you care about good behavior and peace when you are nervous. Therefore, the sudden outbreak of emotions in a toddler is especially difficult for parents, because it surprises and hinders a good reaction.
It becomes a huge test of patience, peace and also ... a kind of test. If you manage to get out of it victoriously and remain calm, you will show your toddler how to control his emotions and how to control his own behavior when you feel that you are about to explode ... And that's it, this is an extremely important lesson!
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