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Nursery or home?

Nursery or home?

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This is one of the first major decisions that parents face after having a child. It is good when it is undertaken without coercion caused by a bad financial situation or working conditions that do not allow you to take a long break. This article will of course not answer all doubts. It is also unable to discuss all possible scenarios. Life is definitely more complex and each time mom and dad should make their own decisions.

Nurseries are intended for children from four months to three years old. Usually, enrollment in the nursery lasts all year.

Nursery for an infant

Many mothers send a child who is about six months old to the nursery for various reasons. Rejecting the option of taking care by grandmother, nanny or staying with the child at home.

What are the consequences of such a decision? Here again, many factors should be taken into account, for example, the working time of a woman. If the mother finishes work long after 4 p.m., returns home around 6 p.m. and the toddler is taken to kindergarten around 8 a.m., it is obvious that they have very little time during the day. This is often accompanied by guilt. The situation of such a woman cannot be compared to the one who goes to work at seven, escorts the child and receives them at 15, and who has at least five hours remaining that she can fully spend with the child. In the case of the first mother, it may actually happen that she will not be able to participate in such breakthrough events as the first step or the first word, but in the second case the situation will be radically different and the child's development will be able to be monitored and experienced on an ongoing basis in the way he deserves.

What can a little child get in a nursery? The infant has no social needs yet. He needs one or two people who will be his regular guardians. Therefore, it is reasonable to say that babies do not need peers, and certainly not in the sense in which this aspect is perceived by sending the child to the nursery. Are there any pros? Are. The child has the ability to observe a larger group of people, learns the world to a greater extent (human behavior) than usually a child who does not attend the nursery does.

What does mom gain? When discussing whether to send a child to a nursery, it is often forgotten that caring for a small child can be tiring, frustrating and sometimes you only dream of being free from her. The nursery often allows a woman to maintain an internal balance and by writing simply "do not go crazy." Even if a woman does not return to work, she may just have time for herself, a moment to breathe and develop, and in this arrangement she does not have to give the child to the nursery for the whole day. On the other hand, nursery often means difficulties for a woman: a child usually gets sick more often, is more strenuous, and when he returns home, he is sometimes so confused that he is not able to leave his mother a step, sticking to the proverbial skirt, showing a considerable deficit of attention.

A child of about 1.5 years

Scientists still do not agree and it is difficult to require them to present one position on this topic. There are two conflicting views. One of them says that a child up to the age of three should be looked after by his mother at home. If possible, parents should not send him to the nursery.

The second view is that after the nursery, children overtake peers who were only in the care of their mother in terms of language development and intellect. American, British and Swedish psychologists have come to such conclusions.

On the other hand, in both cases you can talk about a generalization, because ... childcare at home and in the nursery can vary. In other words: there are good nurseries and we are full of ideas that rarely get bored with playing with children. There are also mothers who stay at home because of lack of work, because this is what the family requires from them and they feel that this situation does not suit them, thus taking care of the child in such a way that no one is actually completely satisfied is. Needless to say, the child can easily sense his parent's emotions.

Similarly crèche crèche uneven crèche. There are facilities where one "auntie" has eight children looked after, as well as those with a "home-like" atmosphere and a "lady" looking after up to three children. There are institutions where children generally feel good and those where they come back in heavily aspen diapers, with chafes and uneaten.

The decision to send a child to a nursery is worth making, watching your child. It happens that already about a year and a half children show a very strong need to play with their peers. Such toddlers are "shaking with joy" at the sight of another "baby" and even when their mother makes every effort at home, they are simply bored. It is very difficult to please them with something and focus attention for longer. Meanwhile, just go with them to the playground to have a toddler "out of your head" for a long time. For parents of such children, it will be a relief to send a child to kindergarten, nursery or children's club. Not necessarily for the whole day, but for a few hours. Especially in winter, when it is difficult to meet the needs of the toddler in terms of contact with peers in the playground.

Is a nursery necessary?

Let's return to the research of American psychologists who say that a child after a nursery is growing faster. I noticed that they are quite relative. Another aspect should be looked at: namely, how long can you see the difference?

It is noticeable for sure during adaptation in kindergarten, which of course is understandable, but when do they fade away? Nursery children accustomed to parting with their parents are more likely to stay in kindergarten. They do not complain like that and do not show the entire sphere of problems characteristic of toddlers who start from kindergarten. However, scientists agree that after a few weeks, a maximum of several months, the differences are blurred. Is it meaning then to send the child to the nursery, taking into account only this criterion? Certainly not.

What gives a home?

Home is a place where a child feels safe. allowing keep childhood for longer. When parents look after a toddler at home, the day mode is usually adapted to the toddler's needs. You do not need to experience nervous mornings, where everyone is in a hurry, and time is running away relentlessly. The toddler can sleep until he sleeps. Certain rotations may also apply to nap times, which do not have to be equal for all children, and all needs are met much faster than in an institution with at least several children in the care of one person.

A woman also gains (provided he obviously needs it). He can observe the development of the child closely, and not get to know him to a large extent in the relationship what not to say strangers. Most likely, she will not survive what many mothers experience when a toddler does not want to come back to her and recognizes a carer in a nursery as a close person.

Child care at home gives peace and a sense of control over the situation. It allows you to make the most important decisions at the right time and be sure that many things are simply influenced. There is no shortage of voices that a child taught to use the potty, not guarded in the nursery, or deprived of proper attention loses this skill and returns to diapers. Similarly, a toddler who sleeps well, has trouble sleeping, etc. Of course, this does not mean that it must be so, but it is so often and you have to be aware of it.

Everyone should make their own good choice

There are no perfect solutions in life. It is enough to talk to the first mother who is at home with the child to hear that she is often tired, frustrated and has the feeling that she has taken too much on her shoulders. In turn, talking to the mother who sent the child to the nursery may result in us hearing that she missed so much that the days at work will cruelly crumble, and the child no longer needs her.

Each situation requires individual treatment. Therefore, only a well-informed, well-thought-out decision allows us to believe that everything will work out our way. However, while maintaining a real look at reality and remembering that nothing lasts forever: both the hardships of raising a child at home will to some extent relieve the mother when the child goes to kindergarten, and sending to the nursery will benefit from when the toddler passes the adaptation period.

So a house or nursery? This is not the first and last dilemma we will face as parents. The main thing is to take into account the child's own needs and readiness. If we are sure of our decision, the whole family will accept it more easily. You can be a happy mother by sending your child to the nursery and looking after him at home.

What do you think? Is it better to send the child to the nursery or stay at home with him? Do you notice any age barrier here? How was with you What do you think about the following opinions:

What opinions can you meet? what do you think about them?

  • Sending a child to a nursery is a bad mother
  • There is no need to stimulate the child so intensively by sending them to the nursery at such an early stage of development.
  • The nursery child has an attention deficit and cannot "take care of himself" for a moment.
  • Even though my mother at home doubles and triples, she is not able to provide the child with as many attractions as in the nursery.
  • Children growing up among children are better prepared for life.
  • There is so much competition on the market that the sooner a child learns the "art of survival", the better.
  • If a child goes through his nursery he will not be sick in kindergarten.
  • The older the child, the easier it is to treat the disease. Nursery diseases are a tragedy.