Adaptation problems in kindergarten

A child starting to go to kindergarten enters a whole new world. There are many emotions, stress, anxiety and uncertainty associated with this event. Before the situation stabilizes, the toddler often begins to behave unusual, it happens that he changes beyond recognition.

A quiet and calm child becomes hyperactive and nervous or closes up even more, and the hit child suddenly loses ground and clearly distances himself from reality. Of course, there are also children who are undergoing an adaptation period without major signs, but they seem to constitute a definite minority.


From the outside, for example, it might look like this: an "unmanaged", "disheveled" child runs up and pulls out a calm toddler's car, pushes "politely" the girl playing with the doll and ... introduces confusion.

A qualified preschooler will give the child the same toy that the child tried to pull out or will find something "to do". People who are not aware that a "naughty child" is not necessarily brought up, but is struggling with adaptive stress can easily give a too hasty assessment of such behavior, focusing on the fact that the child is "bad", and in fact this is his parents.

Meanwhile, the described behavior of a few-year-old can be equally surprising for parents and a child who does not behave like that outside of kindergarten.

How to react to aggression? Most experts indicate that clearly condemn bad behavior, but when it stops, show the child understanding and acceptancethat the toddler does not believe that he is angry, but finds the strength in himself to do otherwise the next time.


Some children are already crying on their way to kindergarten, others are sobbing in the locker room, while others remain calm, and as the day passes, they begin to miss and cry. There is no rule. It is also often the case when a child willingly going to kindergarten suddenly begins to protest and refuse to play with his peers.

Psychologists emphasize that you should remain calm and not react to the crying of the child excessively, so as not to aggravate the problem. If a child notices that through crying he gets what he wants, he will quickly choose this method as the most effective and will reach for it as often as possible, crying on cue.


Hysteria can be combined with crying or appear in a more "aggressive" version as a scream, throwing yourself to the ground, beating your head against the wall, and even hitting yourself and everyone around you.

How to react to hysteria? There are different opinions here. Some suggest that it is best to leave the child alone (taking care that he does not hurt himself: if the child notices that there is no "audience" will quickly stop "playing"), others indicate that it is better to hold the toddler firmly, allowing him to calm down.


It is especially difficult when a child responds to preschool anxiety: by illness. Complains about headache, stomach ache or other discomfort.

This situation is particularly troublesome because it is difficult to assess whether the reported symptoms are real or only temporary, caused by stress.

Driving force to kindergarten is probably not the best idea. However, on the other hand, leaving your toddler at home so that the child learns how to act, not having to go to kindergarten, is also not the best way in the long run.

This problem can often be solved by careful observation of the child and knowledge of the toddler's behavior, especially the lack of reporting health problems during the free time from kindergarten may give a signal to ignore "stomach pain", because this will pass quickly during play with peers.

Children after their debut in kindergarten may also have a problem with:

  • bedwetting,
  • habitual constipation,
  • sucking your thumb
  • performing the previous activities independently, demanding help with eating, using the toilet, etc.,
  • they can start speaking differently, imitating the speech of a small child.

Each time you need to approach the problem individually, with openness and kindness, remembering that nothing is by force and that most of the trouble with the wise support of parents (patience, understanding) will pass.